Right now, I am not exactly sure what I am looking for. So let's chat and see where it goes. I am looking for a single, attached, married woman or cuckold couple for an ongoing friends with benefits situation, I am NOT looking for a one time thing. I prefer to chat some first to see if we would like to meet for coffee, then go from there. That being said...............I travel a lot to the Stockton, Medford and Del Norte areas. And just so you know, I am happily married and we fall somewhere between open relationship and poly. My style is more BD than SM, though my favorite activities tend to blend pain with pleasure, to increase the intensity of play. I have a lot of kinks, and while some may find a few of these kinks "humiliating", I am NOT really into "humiliation or degradation play" as such. I respect a woman who can submit her will, safety, spirit and body to me. I can play at multiple levels and respectful of limits, but that doesn't mean I won't push them a bit.