My wife and I are a mature couple exploring the Stag + Vixen life. This would include having other men have sexual encounters with my wife as I watch, record and even direct the activity. We also want to interject role playing into the experience. For example, my wife and I would be at a bar to have drinks with a friend of mine from many years ago that she has never met. I tell her that he was quite the ladies man back in the day and that women seemed to be drawn to him. My wife and I are at the bar first and she just started her second craft martini. He comes over and greets us. I can see the look in my wife's eye and know what she is thinking - "Yes, I can see why women were attracted to him". I introduce the two of them and they give each other a friendly hug. My wife's drink limit is typically two but she orders her third. She is getting a bit flirty and she touches my friend's arm now and then and gives him that "look". I am not the jealous type and on some level I find this side of her quite adorable. My cell phone rings and I have a work emergency and I actually have to head home to get back to my computer to deal with it. This is unfortunate because we booked a hotel for the night. My wife gets up to leave with me and I tell her to stay at the hotel and splurge on the Spa and for a swim in the pool. She asks if I am sure and I tell her that I absolutely was. I kiss her and give my long lost buddy a big hug. I leave the bar but wait outside and from that point on we would all pretend I was invisible. They leave shortly after and he offers to walk my wife back to our hotel. As they walk she stumbles and he holds her to help her regain balance. However he keeps his arm around her waist. Slowly his hand ventures down and finally feels her ass. She does not object or remove it. They both continue to walk like that as I watch his hand unabashedly caressing my wife's lovely ass. They reach the hotel and go into the elevator. I am there also but still invisible to them. They move to the back of the elevator and he rubs his finger against her pussy through her pants from behind. She closes her eyes as he caresses her between her legs but subtly - so that even if there was another passenger on the elevator they would not notice what was occurring (if there by chance is another person in the elevator with us they would still do this). When they get to our floor, as soon as the door closes he pushes her against the wall in the hallway and kisses her and she responds lustfully. His hands now traverse her entire body as he presses against her and she responds in kind. They are hardly able to take their hands and mouths off of each as they walk to our room and go inside...and the story continues to it's climax. And then another and then another... This is one of many scenes we would explore together. There will be other times when there is no scene but just pure unadulterated sex. I have been asked why is this appealing to me - especially if I personally do not get any physical or direct sexual pleasure out of it. For me it goes beyond the physicality or even the sexuality of things. I like controlling the situation - being the master / director / writer of the experience. For me, women are the epitome of sexuality and creating opportunities where that is realized and elevated - creating tension - intensity - and ultimately rapture - is the goal. This is achieved by removing all pretense, phoniness or ego. By combining the pulsating vibrancy of discovery, the rich lusciousness of the forbidden and the delectable potency of taboo. Making this happen with my wife is the pinnacle.

Mi persona ideal: We are not looking for an overly zealous bull that wants to control the relationship. I am not a cuck, (no offense to cucks), but not interested in being subordinate, submissive or humiliated.

The guy has to care about his looks. Well groomed. Fit. Nicely dressed. Confident but not arrogant. Above average intelligence is nice and easy to talk to.

My wife prefers sensual sex combined with some intermittent ramming and then back to slow rhythms, occasional spanking and nipple pulls/twists, hair pulling.