Have started to enjoy being a "lazy top" or what I now call being a human pacifier for someone really into it - surrendering control of my dick to a attentive and interested masculine guy, for hours or all day/night if they want. [ssshhhhh..... I like other stuff too, very vibe-dependent] I have one main "rule" I enforce strictly with anyone around me: Just don't be a dick! We're experiencing a dramatic rise in narcissism, people. Please, please, show off and be proud of the you that you are, but do so in a kind and considerate (of others) way. Keep in mind that there's a real person (or couple, trio, group, convention, ???) on the other end. Start with respect and consideration (no agreement necessary), then just have blast helping each other find new ways to feel fucking awesome. Hi-5, honk, like, tap, or whatever the fuck this site calls it if you at least loosely agree to shoot for that vs self-centered "all about me"ism

Mi persona ideal: is fully honest
is almost fully open (sharing about themselves honestly, not fully open to experiences)
is considerate
is chill
is fun
sets, communicates, and keeps boundaries, and the people they choose to be in their lives respect those boundaries without badgering
- is open to using all the ground inside those boundaries until they know differently. Hell, if talking ideal person here, they'd realize there's a z-axis inside those boundaries and say "Who said we HAVE to stay on the ground? Come on - let's go up" (yes - former skydiver - but that was not meant literally - "doesn't self-limit" is another view)

[Since "feel awesome" is on my mind, here's a PSA from yours truly: If you have not jumped out of a plane yet, I suggest you make it a priority in your life to do a tandem jump, no matter how scared you think you are of heights (I am... not was, but am, still, after 498 jumps). I have not personally experienced anything else in 50 years that gives you the amount of experienceS (it's different and more than you think it will be) for such little investment of time and money. PSA concluded ]

- knows how to have fun while having fun... truly knows how to laugh at themselves and others in a way that acknowledges or even celebrates the "shit happens" part of sex and life and neutralizes any tendency to degrade anyone (in a way they haven't asked to be, of course), including themselves.
In summary, my ideal person, in bed or in life, and in any setting should act like a kid whenever they can, and act like an adult whenever they must.